Becoming Magnetic
- opulencevision
- May 28
- 8 min read
Finding the Right Polarity to Create Magic
When I first started to think about the JEMMs years ago, the first meditation I started to create was a couples meditative journey, as they sit together with their backs connected, while holding hands to continue the current of electric energy ciruclating through them. The love that they share, the thoughts that they have for each other, the energetic pull that they feel - all of this makes them magnetic. Their love and emotions amplify what they feel about themselves and each other. When two people in divine union truly see the best in one another, they help amplify those qualities — like tuning forks, each one raising the vibration of the other. The love they share becomes a powerful mirror, reflecting the most luminous aspects of who they are and who they’re becoming. As they exchange dreams and speak their deepest desires, their shared love acts as an amplifier — a frequency that magnetizes their visions into reality.
This kind of love doesn’t just feel good — it’s generative. It’s creative. It's life-giving. When the energy between two people is positive, supportive, and grounded in truth, it sends a clear signal into the universe, drawing in more of the same. Their bond becomes a kind of co-creative force, one that not only strengthens their individual paths but also supports the shared life they’re building together.
This is the magic of Divine Union. When you honour a soul contract with someone your soul has chosen, they become your life partner for that time, and together, you create a certain energy and magnetism within your bodies, minds and energies/spirits.
This idea of love as an amplifier — of two souls in sacred union co-creating reality — is something I’ve held close to my heart for years. Divine Union, when grounded in mutual respect and shared intention, can become an energetic forcefield: one where dreams accelerate, frequencies rise, and life responds in kind. Lately I've been questioning what Divine Union means to me.
Last week, the spiritual community felt a collective ripple after Aubrey Marcus and his wife, Vylana, publicly announced that they were in a polyamorous relationship — rebranded as “radical monogamy.”
Now, I’ll admit — I didn’t watch the podcast, but I did read through some of the comments, and I felt resonance with some. Many women — especially those on their own healing paths — expressed visceral reactions. Not out of hate, but from recognition.
When public figures present themselves as community leaders, especially in spiritual spaces, people naturally look to them as models of possibility. So when something feels misaligned — like when the language of divine downloads and sacred feminine energy is used to frame deeply personal, and often complex, choices — it’s going to trigger something. Especially for those of us who have been in similar situations.
I don’t believe Aubrey and Vylana deserve any of the hate they received. But I understand why it touched a nerve. Many of us (especially women) have been in partnerships where we were encouraged to open our relationships, under the premise of spiritual evolution — told that “real love” means letting go of attachment, or that resistance was just unhealed wounding. And in some cases… we lost something precious. Something we didn’t think we would ever lose.
I say this not to criticize them — their relationship is theirs to navigate — but to speak to the frequency that’s moving through so many right now. The confusion. The grief. The yearning for love that feels expansive but also safe. Energetically sound. Rooted.
When I first witnessed the conversation around Aubrey and Vylana opening their relationship, I couldn’t help but feel a pang of recognition. I’ve walked a similar path. I was engaged to a man I loved deeply — someone who, in many ways, reminds me of Aubrey: charismatic, handsome, alpha-type, spiritually curious, and constantly evolving. We had so much love between us that we genuinely believed that love could be amplified by inviting others into our shared field.
He was the first to bring up opening the relationship. He said it would turn him on to see me with other men. I remember holding him and feeling so much love, and in that moment we both said that it felt like there was so much love between us that it was overflowing, and we felt selfish to keep that love to ourselves. At the time, it sounded like freedom, exploration, and trust. But looking back, I realize that this is often how it begins — the woman is invited in first, which subconsciously gives the man “permission” to follow.
We explored while we were engaged — though we truly believed in our hearts that we were already married. We invited others into our bed, and each time, it was hard for me. Watching him with another woman wasn’t easy, but over time, I became desensitized. I thought I was becoming more spiritually mature. I thought I was evolving.
But in truth, I was just becoming less attached to him.
That year — the year we opened our relationship — was also the year I started to lose the depth of feeling I once had for him. He began referring to one of my friends as his “second wife” and another as his “third.” He was experimenting with heavy psychedelics, and it began to change not just his perception, but his personality. I, too, was changing. I found pieces of myself I didn’t know were missing — through dance, through community — but I also lost my anchor to the man I once believed I would spend my life with.
And while he explored with others, I had one steady lover. At the time, I told myself I could separate love from sex — that I could keep my heart for my fiancé while sharing my body with someone else. But that wasn’t the truth. My heart, body, and spirit began bonding with my lover. I didn’t mean for it to happen — but it did. And when my ex realized just how attached I had become, it broke him.
It broke us.
There was one moment during that time that stays with me vividly. I was at a festival, lost and alone in the forest, tripping on LSD for the first time. Fear and confusion overwhelmed me. I could hear distant voices and music but couldn’t find my way out. I remember crying, desperate to feel safe, to be held, to have him with me — just to know I wasn’t alone.
When I finally made it out of the forest, I found him in the crowd — holding another woman in his arms. In that moment, a thought crystallized in my heart: How could he catch me falling if his arms are full?
That was the turning point — the moment I truly lost faith in our relationship. Not because I wanted to hold onto control or expectations, but because I realized that my deepest needs for emotional safety and presence weren’t being met.
Shortly after, I made the difficult decision to leave everything behind — with only my clothes and my car — to start a new chapter.
Over this past year, I’ve had the space and time to deeply process that decision I made all those years ago. I’ve come to understand that I’ve carried a heavy weight of guilt for leaving him — even though he had changed into someone I no longer recognized, and that person wasn’t truly hearing or honouring me anymore.
I don’t regret that choice. Since then, I’ve lived a full and rich life, discovering who I really am and what I truly need to thrive.
I’m not positioning myself as an innocent victim in any way — this was a complex journey with many layers — but I hold no regrets because that experience shaped the clarity and perspective I carry today.
💫 Sacred Union vs. Divine Union
As I’ve deepened in my own practice and reflected on past relationships, I’ve come to realize there’s a subtle but powerful difference between Sacred Union and Divine Union — and I believe it’s important to name it.
Sacred Union is a frequency of reverence. It’s the energy of full presence, of honouring whatever or whomever you are in connection with. You can have Sacred Union with a lover, yes — but also with your breath, your art, the earth, a sunrise. Sacred Union happens when you approach something with devotion, when you treat it as holy.
Divine Union, on the other hand, is a rarer alchemy. It’s what happens when two souls come together and create an energetic current that amplifies who they are — individually and together. Their love becomes a living field of magnetism. When they're aligned, their energy makes them more powerful manifestors. Their shared dreams become easier to reach. Their joy deepens. Their healing quickens. It’s not always easy, but it is divine.
Here’s the thing I’ve come to feel deeply — and it might not be popular, but it’s true for me: When you bring another person into that dynamic, the energy shifts. That original divine circuit — that sacred polarity between two souls — becomes divided. Not because of jealousy or judgment, but because the current has to split. The magnetism that once amplified each partner now diffuses into a larger field. And while that may work for some, those of us who are called to Divine Union can feel that difference instantly — in our bodies, our nervous systems, our sense of direction.
This isn’t about rules or right/wrong. It’s about energy, resonance and frequency. And for those of us wired to dance in divine polarity, that signal is unmistakable.
That said, what Aubrey Marcus and Vylana share feels to me like a powerful expression of Sacred Union. The reverence they hold for one another, the intentionality in how they communicate, and their deep devotion to growth — it’s all there. There’s a maturity and a spiritual openness between them that allows for their love to expand beyond just the two of them, and instead of breaking the bond, it seems they’ve learned how to harmonize their frequency with others.
Maybe, for them, bringing in new partners doesn’t dilute the harmony — it creates a richer melody. A layered symphony of human connection, each soul adding depth and texture to the field of love they’ve built.
It’s not a path for everyone — and it’s not one I personally feel called to at this point in my life — but I can recognize the sacredness in it. And I honor the way they’ve chosen to walk it. It’s not my role to judge their downloads or declarations, but rather to reflect on how I'm reacting to it on a subconscious level.
What matters most, in the end, is that we each honour and listen deeply to our own soul’s calling— to the kind of connection, love, and frequency that brings us into greater alignment with who we truly are. To honour what is right for us, and to allow others to walk their own path.
Invitation to Reflect on Your Own Journey of Union
Every relationship we hold—whether with a partner, a friend, or even ourselves—carries a unique energy and potential for growth. Sacred Union invites us to bring reverence and respect to these connections, recognizing the divine spark in all relationships. Divine Union, on the other hand, calls us to explore the magnetic, transformative power that two souls create when deeply aligned.
Where are you on your own path? How have your experiences shaped your understanding of love, attachment, and growth?
Take a moment to sit with these questions:
What does Sacred Union mean to me personally?
Have I experienced moments of Divine Union—where my energy and another’s created something more than the sum of its parts?
How do I nurture and honour the connections that uplift me?
What fears or beliefs might be holding me back from fully embracing love and connection?
In what ways can I embody more courage, compassion, and authenticity in my relationships—starting with the one I have with myself?
Allow yourself the grace to explore these reflections without judgment. Each insight is a stepping stone to deeper connection, healing, and empowerment.
Until next time, Lover, be true to you and spread that love inside of you as much as you can!
xoxoxo
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